Many families miss loved ones when they are away serving in the military. Sometimes the service men and women are away from moms, dads, brothers, and sisters. In this story Dad and the kids, Harmony and Dominic, are home missing mom. Mom is in the United States Army, and during her deployment, she is sometimes gone for up to 12 months. Throughout the book, you experience what the family has to do to cope without mom, all the while missing her. I hope this book is a testament to those families who make many sacrifices at home and abroad so that we can enjoy the freedoms that we have.
When All That’s Left of Me Is Love is poignant and powerful. Linda Campanella provides an intimate look inside her family and her heart as she relives the joy-filled year leading to her terminally ill mother’s death. In the process, she comes to terms with the permanence of her loss and finds comfort in profound gratitude for many unexpected gifts.
At once heart-wrenching and heartwarming, When All That’s Left of Me Is Love is about living fully and purposefully after learning someone very dear to us will be gone too soon. Readers can expect to be touched deeply by one woman’s example of grace and courage and one family’s determination to embrace life while awaiting death. The book itself is full of life. It reminds us all to cherish loving relationships and each new day. Intensely personal, its themes – love, family, faith, courage, grief – are universal.
Campanella’s beautiful story of bonds that do not break and love that never dies is hopeful, helpful, and healing. It will inspire not only those who face or fear death (their own or a loved one’s), but also those who love and embrace life.
It’s been called the “oldest profession in the world.” I call it everyday life.
My mother is a hooker who turns tricks in our tiny apartment. At six years old, I shudder every time the doorbell rings and rings and rings.
In our tight-knit Jewish community, my family’s behavior is not welcomed. While my mother runs her “business,” my father behaves like an ostrich with his head in the sand. He barely functions. My sister, a lesbian in an era when being gay is reprehensible, is placed into a convent and then sent to a mental institution. And there is shoplifting, scamming checks, and a stolen car ring using the rabbi’s garage.
I strut through my teenage years with a display of arrogant posturing designed to conceal the internal angst of isolation, loneliness, and fear of following in my mother’s footsteps.
My fantasy is to have a cookie-cutter life. I find my life’s mate, marry, become the perfect wife and mother, yet, in my secret heart, I am still out of step. The cookie crumbles when my husband is diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. He becomes blind and suffers six grueling years. As he struggles, I struggle to keep it all together. I cry for all of us.
The Hooker’s Daughter is a memoir of a life dictated by shame and discontent. It traces the path of a young woman from childhood, through bewildered adolescence, to wife, mother, widow, and successful entrepreneur. The story is about trauma, survival, and triumph.
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How is Writing In Your Genre Different from Others?
It is very personal. I was very exited when I first received the galley of the book.
But, after publishing my memoir, I angst about, “What would people say? Am I being foolish? Why am I doing this?” I had periods of doubt and anxiety. Many sleepless nights. However, making my private life public finally devalued the impact of the gossip and embarrassment and the baggage I did not pack!!! No more secrets!!!
What Advice Would You Give Aspiring Writers?
Many authors love the writing process but fear the more difficult process of promoting their creation. I love marketing. Selling something that originated in my head is a great challenge and generates a lot of satisfaction. By getting on the phone and the web, I have been able to arrange for numerous speaking engagements to promote the book and even receive honorariums. However, money is not the point.
I have learned a number of important lessons through my forays in book publishing. Here are just a few:
1. Make sure your book is the best you can do before you ask anyone to review it. (No spelling or grammar or organizational mistakes) A sloppy job will turn people off.
2. Start the marketing process 6 months prior to publication
a. So you can obtain some reviews and comments. As a result you may make changes to your book or you may even put some in your book.
b. So you can put up a web site prior to publishing.
c. So you can line up speaking engagements and generate anticipation.
d. So you can develop the marketing material and pitches necessary (press release, bio, a quick 1 or 2 sentence description of your book, a more comprehensive description)
3. A little test marketing can help you define your market (gender, age, ethnic background, technical background, etc. etc.). It may not be clear at the beginning what your market is and you should be open to changing your mind. Understanding, your market can save a lot of wasted time.
4. Realize that The NY times will not review a self published book by an unknown author. However, there are a number of web sites that will offer your book for review.
5. Do not think that the generation of a facebook page or the creation of a 2 minute video, will result in a viral spread of information and interest about your book. It takes a lot of follow-up. Every contact needs follow up. The more people you talk to and the more presentations you give, the larger your audience becomes.
6. There is a lot of free assistance on the web.
a. You can create and submit an Ebook at no cost. (You have to perform all the formatting of the product)
b. You may obtain reviews and interviews.
c. You may put up a website.
d. You may sell your book and set up for credit card sales (The set up is free. Each sale costs)
e. There are hundreds of sites that offer to sell your book. Amazon being the largest. Putting you book up for sale is a necessity. However sales will only occur if you develop your market and exploit all your old and new contacts
7. Once you have a good idea of the market(s) for your book the web can be an invaluable resource to gather contact information about organizations and clubs that may be interested in a book presentation and signing.
8. Do not be afraid of the process. Get on the web and on the phone and talk to people.
Many people have a single lifetime career. Not Dale. She is into her fourth. While raising her young family, Dale obtained her RN degree and practiced psychiatric nursing. She parlayed her medical and extensive sales experience to become CEO of her Destination Management Company which for twenty years organized conventions, corporate events, and meetings for national and international guests. Dale conducted numerous educational seminars and assisted in developing a tourism college degree program. During her fourth career, she penned her memoir and has immersed herself in the marketing process. Through her speaking engagements, she hopes to help others overcome difficult circumstances based upon her own personal life experiences. Dale resides in Boston and Phoenix with her husband
What Inspired You to Write Your Book?
The question I wrestled with in telling my story were … what part should remain confidential and hidden, and what part should be revealed? When do we allow others into our inner sanctums and when do we not? Secrets can be like infections, which if concealed, fester until they become monsters.
These are not small questions! They touch upon issues of intimacy, trust, vulnerability, self-confidence, and fear. I walked carefully between the raindrops. Ultimately, I told it like I remembered and pulled no punches.
This memoir could have been a dark book, “A Mommy Dearest.” But, instead of condemnation, this is a story of l ove, forgiveness, and triumph over one’s demons.
I had been writing this memoir in my head my entire life. Initially, I wanted to write this book for my children so they would know all there was to know about their mother. I hid from them my struggles because I didn’t want them to feel any of the taint I experienced as a child. Their father was slowly dying and I only wanted to shield and protect them from more grief.
Years ago, I occasionally scribbled some notes on pads of paper. However, it was too hard to bring it along because I was fearful of being a traitor, a turncoat to my family.
After all, I was taught to honor my parents and conditioned never to reveal or harm the family, no matter what. And this would not be a pretty picture, especially of my mother, who I loved so much.
One day, I read there was a writing group meeting in a back room of Panera’s (Paradise) bakery and decided to go. At first, I wrote the assignments that the leader gave the ten of us, but eventually I asked if I could write my own pieces instead. They were struck with my story and encouraged me to consider it as a serious endeavor to be shared with others.
I could have put my writings in the drawer but there was something more gnawing at me! I felt that I could offer something to people who are suffering and struggling. I wanted to show that it is possible to overcome dire circumstances and to inspire people not to be victims. As the Bible says: “If you save one person, you save the world.”