What inspired you to write your memoir?
Actually, I didn’t start off intending to write a memoir. I was at work one day a couple of years ago, and six different people told me “you should write a book”. I’ve been told this since I was a teenager- so I thought about it, and decided to open a free blogspot account and just give writing a try. It was intended to be an experiment, or practice, or just a place to talk about the things I was thinking about.
Over time, it took on a life of its own. The people I shared it with responded really well, and that kept me writing. Eventually I bought my own website and my audience grew. People starting asking me to publish it as a book.
At first I couldn’t see how it could be a book- but eventually I came to the understanding that the timeline of the thoughts and emotions it contained told a story of their own- my growth and learning through was I was experiencing. I came to the conclusion that it was indeed a memoir of my life, in a way. And I had decided that it was time to take the next step with my writing and get outside my comfort zone once again.
Since I had exactly zero knowledge of how to self-publish a book, it took many months of trial and error and google searching- but I got there.
What had started out as a very personal experiment, turned into a very public book.
About your Book:
All of the Ways to Hell is a collection of about 125 daily essays on virtually any subject, written over a period of about a year and a half. It contains my thoughts, ideas, ruminations, and philosophy on dozens of things. Sometimes inspired by events of the day, sometimes by things I would hear or see, or remember.
How did you decide how to publish your book and where is it published through:
All of the Ways to Hell is self-published for Kindle, and in print through CreateSpace. I decided to try publishing it because so many people had asked me to do it.
I decided to self-publish because I knew that the book was unique and outside the realm of traditional publishing- I wasn’t sure a publisher would get it, but I felt pretty strongly that individuals would get it.
How do you see writing a Memoir as different from writing other genres of books?
Since I have no experience writing in other genres, I can’t really say. What I can say for sure is that writing a memoir can be very personal, and very difficult. Exposing yourself so thoroughly and leaving yourself vulnerable to the judgments of others is not for the feint of heart. But the rewards are tremendous.
I am a 49 year old woman, divorced with three kids: 13, 15 and 26. I grew up in a large family with three brothers and a sister. After high school I went to art school and got a degree in graphic design. I worked in advertising for a number of years, then got married and did the stay-at-home-mom thing for a while.
After nine years of marriage, my ex-husband had an affair and left us. At the time I had one child in kindergarten, one in first grade, and one who had just started college. I went back to school and got a job in NYC in the garment industry.
In 2009 I decided to move my family 40 miles away, closer to my job. The kids’ father contested the move, and because I did not have an attorney, I lost the case. My ex-husband and his mistress-turned-live-in-girlfriend were awarded custody of my children. I lived in the new place until the lease on that house was up, then moved back to my own home near my kids- but they still live with their father.
I am currently employed and see my kids once night a week and every other weekend.